Thursday, 22 July 2010

What do you do?

I have always been a strong beliver in discipline and teaching my children about respect. I'm not a mummy that believes in smacking my tod when naughty.
When JK does step out of line I give him a warning and if he continues to misbehave I then put him on the time out spot for 3mins. He soon realises he was wrong and he then stops. I also have a reward chart with tasks for JK to do each day and he gets a smile for each one he does. We have rules to follow as well which we all sat down a wrote out with JKs help. He is a well behaved boy and I am always getting compliments on how good he is. Not that I'm being bias or anything, LOL!!
He does have the odd huff but never has he taken any tantrums.

My friends don't discipline there kids as much as I do and a few of them use smacking as a way of dealing with naughty Tods,I'm not saying there kids are monsters but the bad behaviour does continue. What kind of message are they giving out by smacking? And what does it achieve?
When I'm at friends house and if there tod was beig naughty and friend smacks tod when I am there I can't help but feel weird. I truly can't see the benefit of it, and I think I would feel bad if I ever done it to JK or KT.

Everyone has different ways of dealing with situations, WHAT DO YOU DO? What discipline and rules do you use at home?


  1. Similar to you, we use warnings, time out and, most importantly, rewards for good behaviour.

    I'm a big believer in that children mimic the behaviour that they see. I don't smack my chldren as I don't want them to see smacking as a solution to a problem. I do also think that smacking shows a 'losing' of control from the parent. Let's face it, we've all been there! It is really hard and sometimes I just have to walk away, but I truly believe that smacking only teaches a child to smack...

  2. 'Pass the Chablis' (Great title!) is quite right.
    Hitting doesn't help anybody and it's more an outcome of the parents lack of patience rather than the child being punished 'for their own good!'
    Listening, talking and being more stubborn than them, usually holds the key!